~By Colleen Mihelich, Founder, Peternity.com
The "double-edged sword" phenomenon of working in the animal care industry – you’ve dedicated your life to making a positive difference for animals, but the emotional stress is draining, exhausting and taking a toll on you. You can’t imagine doing anything else with your life, but outside of your work, do you have a life? You work in the animal care industry, not necessarily because you’ve chosen to, but because it’s chosen you. You cannot exist without doing all that you can to care for and save animals. You love what you do, but the heartbreak and emotional strain on you is sometimes too much to bear. There is a term for all of this, it’s called Compassion Fatigue (further referenced as CF) and it is normal, and very real.
Not only does CF dominate your professional life, but it always rears its head in your personal life – sleepless nights, exhaustion, acute sadness, depression, isolation from friends, a life that feels out of balance, rides on emotional rollercoasters, and anger towards people in general for the terrible ways in which they treat animals. According to Dr. Robert G. Roop, President of the Humane Society University and author of Compassion Fatigue in the Animal-Care Community, CF is most prevalent in the animal care field than in any other field. Why is this? He believes that it is the sheer volume of animals, of beings, that animal care workers deal with on a daily basis. Unlike physicians for humans, or psychologists or counselors, people in the animal care field, specifically in shelters and rescues, can be caring for up to 500 animals a day in some cases. The number of lives and suffering that one is exposed to is much higher than in human care fields. This creates a burden on the heart and soul of the caregiver. Everyone responds differently to these stressors and everyone has different coping skills available to them.
CF is not exclusive to those dealing with euthanasia and end-of-life situations though.
Here are some interesting and very surprising facts about Compassion Fatique:
1) Females have only slightly higher CF scores
2) CF has nothing to do with the number of years you’ve been working in the animal care field
3) CF has no correlation to age
4) CF is only minimally related to euthanasia.
Anyone in the animal care community can "get" CF, and Dr. Roop specifically uses the word "get" as a reminder that no one is born with CF. It is something that develops, and it can develop in anyone who is involved in a care giving relationship. CF is the "cost of caring for others in emotional pain".
The concept and study of CF developed out of the field of traumatology and falls under the category of Secondary Traumatic Stress Disorder (STSD). We’ve all heard the term Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), especially with the number of returning soldiers from the Middle East. With PTSD the symptoms are directly connected to the person who is suffering and experiencing the traumatic stress firsthand. The symptoms of STSD are pretty much identical to PTSD with the difference being that the "exposure to knowledge about a traumatizing event is experienced by a significant other." PTSD is about the absorption of someone else’s pain and suffering. You are like a full sponge that cannot absorb any more pain and suffering.
What would you say the ratio of happy experiences is to sad experiences are in this field of work? Even if you’re more heavily weighted towards happier experiences, according to Stephen P. Robbins, author of Organizational Behavior, "people reflect and think about events inducing negative emotions 5 times as long as they do about events inducing strong positive emotions." It is simply human nature. We replay negative and traumatizing events over and over in our minds. There is a debilitating and negative effect on our emotions and our stress levels when we re-experience the trauma in these replays in our minds.
You love what you do (Compassion Satisfaction) but . . . it hurts you (Compassion Fatigue)
So how do you balance the happy (Compassion Satisfaction - CS) and the sad (Compassion Fatigue)?
The happy is the satisfaction and fulfillment that you get through working with animals, the reason why you got into the industry in the first place, right? But it comes with so much sadness, pain and often frustration.
You need to start to pay closer attention to, and take better care of your own needs so that you can make more room in your life for the Compassion Satisfaction. As someone dedicated to a field where you’re caring for others in need, you naturally put the animals’ well being before your own. But as we all intuitively know, we don’t have much to give if we don’t keep the love and generosity that we have inside nurtured, enriched and replenished. In devoting ourselves to others, we can easily lose ourselves. CF is what we experience when we are out of balance from caring for others more than we care for ourselves.
Here are some pointers to start to bring your caring and giving nature back to focus on yourself.
Colleen Mihelich is the Founder and Creative Director of Peternity.com, a website dedicated to pet memorials and pet loss.
Find out more information about Compassion Fatigue or to join The Compassion Fatigue Awareness Project Forum, visit www.compassionfatigue.org.
Here, you can collaborate with other Project associates and stay connected to the CFAP community.
If you think you may be a Compassion Fatigue sufferer, you can visit the Professional Quality of Life - Compassion Satisfaction, Compassion Fatigue and Secondary Traumatic Stress website and take the Compassion Fatigue Self-Test and be on your way to awareness and help for a better tomorrow. www.proqol.org/ProQol_Test.html
To Weep for a Stranger by Patricia Smith
Patricia Smith, founder of the Compassion Fatigue Awareness Project, published To Weep for a Stranger: Compassion Fatigue in Caregiving. Along with in-depth explanations of compassion fatigue and its symptoms and causes, the paperback features comprehensive chapters on topics such as The Burdens of the Chosen, When Caring Too Much Hurts, The Decision to Heal, and Standards of Self-Care.
Compassion Fatigue in Caregiving is the first step in learning more about this emotional and physical pain-filled syndrome and how to break free from the bonds that restrict compassionate, dedicated caregivers from living a happy, healthy life. $20.00